Friday, March 23, 2012

Defenses of Communication


A situation in which I felt disconfirmed and defensive is when I contributed ideas to spruce up our newscasts. I though my ideas were valid and substantial but it seem to me that people did not care. People did not acknowledge my ideas and felt hurt because I thought I was trying to help the newscast and take to a different level. I can identify two of Gibb's defensive-producing communication, which is superiority and control. Since I suggested the idea to the show producer to do "how to" stories to add to the newscast he was very hesitant and really did not like the idea and flexed his superiority. The show producer said it adds nothing to the newscast  and that it's not relevant to the show. At the moment I just felt my idea was completed ignored and did not give me chance to test out my idea and see how it works on the newscast. Another defense used was control. According to Wood (2011) "a common instance of controlling communication is a person's insistence that her or his solution or preference should prevail," (p. 209). The producer just suggested that we should keep doing the newscast how we are doing them and just add more live shows and reporters introducing their stories. He did not even consider my ideas and just asserted his idea into the show. 
-Sir Keithington 

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Trust

In this post I am going to talk about the importance of trust in a relationship. I truly believe that trust is the starting foundation for any relationship because it's glue that holds everything together. According to Wood (2011), trust involves believing in another's reliability and emotionally relying on another to look for our welfare and our relationship," (p. 199). In order to for an relationship to grow and test the wills of time it must have trust. Many relationships fail because the people in relationships do not trust one another. An aspect of trust is self-disclousre. According to Wood (2011), "is the revelation of of personal information about ourselves that others are unlikely to discover in other ways," (p. 199). Self-discolusre is absolutely vital in a relationship because you coming to your friend or partner in confidence about an issue or a problem. Instilling trust in a friend is the greatest gift in a relationship because it validates the friendship or relationship. Furthermore trust and disclosure also ties to being honest with you partner because it's a mutual relationship. Personally, the relationships that last have instilled in trust in each other and our honest because with those two characteristic the foundation of relationships is built.
-Sir Keithington

Monday, March 19, 2012

Confirming and Disconfirming Climate

After reading the section of confirming and disconfirming I do find myself to disagree with other people. I think if I disagree with one my peers it feels like I am not supporting them. The book mentions three ways to confirm and disconfirm something and that is recognition, acknowledgement and endorsement.  When friend talks about something that I personally disagree with I just stare out a window or be silence. That's an example of recognition. Another form of confirmation is acknowledgement. We show acknowledgement by agreeing with the person and paraphrasing their words. An example of disconfirming acknowledgment occurs when you acknowledge their issue but do not paraphrase their idea of that issue. For instance, my friend is mad because he think he failed the SAT's and then I'll ask I wonder how are other friend did on the SAT. The last form of confirmation is endorsement. According to Wood, endorsement is "accepting another's feelings and thought. This is different from endorsing ideas because supporting a cause or issue as with confirming others is endorsing their believes and feelings on that topic. Overall, I found this sections very intriguing because it taught me non-verbal cues that I am not aware of when I am agreeing or disagreeing with a person. Know I know that I constantly sue endorsement, acknowledgment and recognition in order to agree or disagree with a person within a conversation.
-Sir Keithington

Saturday, March 10, 2012

Ineffective Expressions in Emotions


The concept that I want to talk about is ineffective expression in emotions. There are three ineffective ways to express emotions, which are speaking in generalities, not owning feelings and counterfeit emotional language. According to the text, speaking in generalities is very common. For example, emotion generalities are saying, “I’m happy or I’m mad.” These phrases are very general and really do not express much. There has to be an emotion behind these emotions. An example would be saying “I’m super excited because I going to see the President of the United States.” Another if effective expression in emotions does not own your feelings. An example is using “you” language to refer to some like “you make me angry.” This is ineffective because you are not truly showing emotion. In reality, the emotion you are truly feeling is anger and dislike. More so, counterfeit emotional language is language that expresses emotions but not feelings. For example, a person saying, “please stop it.” This type of language indicates that the speaker is feeling something but language is not expressing the emotion. Nonetheless, ineffective expressions in emotion could me both misleading and confusing when communicating and building a relationship with a person.
-Sir Keithington 

Friday, March 9, 2012

Emotional Fallacies

One emotional that I am guilty of is perfectionism. I always strive to be a perfectionist because I set high standards for myself and I want to impress people with my talent. But I admit it's absolutely took a tole on me emotionally. According the text effects of perfectionism are stress, dissatisfaction of self and jealous and envy of others and I definitely experienced that during my life. For example, today I was lead anchoring Update News and newscast produced by students from the School of Journalism and Mass Communications and I totally got flustered when my live interview take did not go so well. I caught off guard by that and I miss my timing for when to read over the break. I was so disappointed in myself and I thought I was going to have an emotional relapse because I was so ready for my opportunity to shine and I blew it. But you know what I picked my self back up and go through the rest of the newscast. I just have to realize that no one is perfect. Perfection can't be achieved and I just have to realize to believe in my self and role with the punches. So whenever  I have a moment to think it over, I'll always say that I can learn from this experience and what doesn't kill you make your stronger.
-Sir Keithington

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Emotional Influences

According to Wood (2011) emotion is "our experience and interpretation of internal sensations as they are shaped by physiology, perception, language and social experiences," (p. 173). After reading the text, personally I believe that organismic & interactive view of perception are linked to my view on emotion. Theses perspectives make the most sense to me because they both complement each other and they are simple to understand. The organismic view of emotion regards a stimuli response to an sensation. For example, an person who touches a hot pan may experience a painful emotion because the pan was scorching hot. Another example, can be is getting nerves or butterflies in your stomach before you perform for an event or contest. In addition, another example could be a visceral reaction when you see someone get murdered in a horror movies. Therefore, organismic perspective of emotion is triggered by out reaction to certain situations or things when variables are acted up. If that makes sense. As for the interactive perspective of emotional is influenced by society. Wood (2011) says "social rules and understandings shape what people feel and how they dor or don't express their feelings," (p. 176). For example the justices of the Supreme Court of the United States are not supposed to express any emotion during the President's State of the Union Speech. Another example, is expressing an endearing emotion when we see someone from our family graduate or when we see a pouting dog. Therefore, interactive perspective of emotion is set by the rules of society. Together both interactive and organismic views of emotion work together to express or limit various emotions in various social constructs. 
-Sir Keithington

Saturday, March 3, 2012

Listening to Support Others

The concept of listening to support others is basically relationship listening. In order to establish connections and make relationships grow you must listen. According to Wood (20111), being mindful, being careful of expressing judgements, being understanding and expressing support are essential to being a good relationship listener, (p.162) So let's break down the the four points. Being mindful is critical to being an effective listener. In a relationship setting we need to look for "what lies between and behind the content in order to understand what another person is feeling," (Wood 2011, p. 162). When you are listening to support others you have to be quick not to make judgements. The person is who is expressing his or her feelings to you instills a lot of trust in you and support. This leads me to my next point about being understanding of the person perspective. If there is anything that you don't agree with the person don't tune them out being understanding and look from the situation from their point of view. It's really important to see the problem from the other person's perspective. Additionally, if you don't agree with them provide them a solution to the problem. Lastly to be an effective relationship listener you must express support. The person telling their feelings and secrets from you wants your support. To be a great friend you must supportive. Nonetheless, the basics of relationship listening are important because they provide  guide to how support our friends because with relationship listening how would we building a strong friendship and support.
-Sir Keithington

Friday, March 2, 2012

Listening is a 10 Part Skill

I found the article on listening is a 10 part skill very interesting. I never really thought of listening as a skill but it makes perfect sense why listening is skill because in order to communicate and receive information we must listen. The few items that stood out to me in the article is when your listening judge for content and not delivery and listen for ideas. I think these two concepts are especially important because I feel we use these two skills to make decision. For example, we are going through a presidential election and many republicans are battling it out to be the GOP nominee. In order to distinguish the candidates and makes a sound decision we must listen to their ideas for the future of American and how to bring back the economy from the brink of disaster. Another skill that stood out for me was hold your excitement. For example, let's just say you think your boyfriend or girlfriend is getting ready to ask you to marry him or her but the fact is that he or she wants to break up with you. This skill illustrate don't assume what message is going to be so you can make a preemptive message. Additionally, it's important to practice listening because it coaches us how to look for content, decipher ideas and communicate information. Therefore, I found this article very intriguing because it taught me about different skill sets of listening and how they can be applied.
-Sir Keithington