Marriage

Over the next 50 years marriage is going to change dramatically. In today's generation people are getting married and starting families at an earlier age. In past, getting marriage and starting family was a process but today it does not seem like that at all. I remember my mom getting married right after she graduated college and started having children after a few years getting established on the job. Additionally, I think marriage will be conducted online since we are fast paced society and the obstacle of planning a wedding becoming tiresome. More so, I think less people will be married because I see more divorce occurring throughout the years and I just couples in domestic partnerships because I sometimes feel the concept of marriage threatens an relation or can be scary of the couple involved. Futhrermore, I think in 50 years gays and lesbians will be able to get married legally because nobody is not going to care if their married because because marriage does not have the same impact that it did 50 years ago. In the past marriage was a symbol of love and family but not marriage is tiresome and irrelevant and that is pretty sad. 

-Sir Keithington

Types of Marriages

There are six types marriages in society according to Wood. The six types of marriages are vital, total, passive-congenial, devitalized and conflict-habituated. In a vital marriage, the couple is close emotionally and sexually. Therefore, the relationship is stable and both parties are satisfied. In a total marriage, it is similar to a vital marriage but there is space and separation involved in order for the couple to have independence. I think total marriages are the most common because it shows that couple are secure of themselves and trusting of their partners. In a passive-congenial marriage, the passion is low and the couple gets satisfaction participating in activities that are  not involved in the relationship. Then moving on to the devitalized marriages. In a devitalized marriage, the couple of bored with one another. I strongly believe that devitalized relationships lead divorce because all the passion and intimacy is gone. Furthermore, in a conflict-habituated relationship the marriage just falls about they are absolutely incompatible.
-Sir Keithington

Family

The first thing that I think of when I mention family is love. Family is an entity that an person can count on. Additionally, I think family is a free support system. More so, family teaches children how to behave, act and communicate in society. Family is the foundation of our beliefs and the place that keeps people grounded. I personally believe that family members provide love and support. In addition, many family members provides guidance and wisdom. For example, I always talk to grandparents and seek their advice about certain problems I go through. Moreover, family members are people's cheering teams. When you succeeding or failing you family is always there to cheer you on or pick you up. I know when I graduate this semester, I am going to hear my family cheer loud and proud to me. None of the relationships in Chapter 12 do not change my opinion on my definition of family. Family is where the heart is.

-Sir Keithington

Love and Commitment

Unfortunately, I have not experience love or commitment in a relationship since I have not sought out those type of relationships. Most of the relationships I have our platonic and are not romantically involved. In romantic relationships is key to have both commitment and love. The first thing to have is commitment because love can develop over time. Commitment is a sense of trust and reassurance in a relationship. If you are committed in a relationship that means that you believe that you can spend your whole life the person. Let's move on to love. Love is developed feeling of passion of the person. In additionally, love can grow over time by spending lots of time withe person and getting the know the person. I think there is no problem with relationship with commitment and without love because the couple of building their love together. I hope that makes sense. Other wise relationships with love and without commitment are tricky because you can love the person but no commit to the person which leads you to be with other people and that spell bad things for relationships. Love and commitment are the foundation of a successful relationship and they are synergistic. Both love and commitment come together to create strong bonds that hopefully last forever.

-Sir Keithington

Primary Styles of Love

In this post I am going to expand on primary styles of love. There are currently three primary love styles. These styles are eros, storge and ludus. Eros is the most passionate type love. For example, a person who has eros is absolutely head over the heels over their significant other and are just infatuated by him or her. According to Wood, "erotic lovers are likely to self-disclose early in a relationship, be very sentimental and fall in love fast," (p. 280). Storge is love based on friendship and compatibility. In addition, storge love builds gradually and are usually stable. I think my two good friends Trevor and Alexandria have a storge relationship because they have been friends since 3rd grade and they both acted on their feelings for each other and both of them are very happy. The last style of primary love is ludus. Ludus is described as playful love. Ludus lovers treat love as games and love getting caught in the mystery and mind games of love. However, ludus love can be deceitful and deceptive because the person sees love as a fun and not a relationship to develop. Ludus lovers are not looking for a committment just a good type. So those are three styles of primary love.
-Sir Keithington

Deception and Deceit

I agree with other critics that there is a greater potential for deceit and deception online. On the web anyone can masquerade to be anyone one they want to be to a person. In addition, it is easy for people to portray of a character or image that they are not. This deceptive and deceitful online because the person you may be starting a relationship online can turn out to be someone scary and dangerous. There have been many cases of young girls falling head over heels or guys on Facebook who turn out to be 40 year old men who just want to have sex with young girls. There are many dangers online and rapist and pedophiles can trick people online through having a friendly profile picture or engaging in friendly conversation. I do not think it's ethical for people to misrepresent yourself online because it is just wrong. Plain and simple. Be yourself and not someone else. Deception and deceit occurs easily online than in face to face communication. During the face to face communication, you can read with the person is lying or try to portray an image that isn't them. Though sometimes in face to face communication it may because it's all about body language and communication. Someone who is the master of those two skills can fool anybody.
-Sir Keithington.

My Best Friend

Investment was the key to building the friendship of my best friend and I. At first my best friend Perry and I were classmates in elementary schools. However, in elementary we really did not hang out because we had our own circle of friends. Once we got to middle school that all changed. My other friends joined another social circle in middle and then Perry and I just gravitated to another because we knew each other in elementary and sometimes eat lunch together. I think our friendship developed when he first invited me to his 12th birthday party at his house. I got to meet his family and younger brothers. From there we have became best friends. I know his family well and he knows my family well. In high school we were a team. Our nick name was PK. I strongly that investment played a huge role in friendship because I have invest my time learning is artistic and creative side as he had to invest in me being involved in school and newspaper. I even encouraged Perry to join newspaper and student council so we can hang out and have fun together. However, we still had our space. Whenever the other friend is in need we help each other out. Also we were able to disclose our deepest secretes to each other. In order for a friendship to grow it takes investment, trust and space. I think these three concepts have made our relationship last for 12 years.
-Sir Keithington

External Pressures of Friendship

There are many external pressures that friendships face and overcome. The most common external influences are competing demands, personal change and geographic distance. Competing demands basically expands on the issues that friends get wrapped into other social circles of live and that can include career and school. For example, when I am at school I mainly focused with my friends who I interact in classes with than my friends at home. Most of the friends that I grew up with our in Southern California and of course I'll go to the school here so it is sometimes hard to call my friends since I am involved in SJSU circle of friends. In addition, geographic location is also an external pressure. For example, when I was in New York interning at MTV my friends had to call me at certain times because it's a three hour difference. Most of the time my friends would call late pacific time but then I told them to called me earlier because when they call me, I am already in bed. Another external influence on friendships is personal changes. Since being away for four years and going to school I've change as person and so have my friends too. I realized I like engaging in move in depth conversations about life, news and pop culture. However, my friends out not really interested in those subjects so sometimes it is frustrating to talk them about these topics and most of the time they do not know what current events are going on. Then for me personally, I feel left out of loop when I come back for summer and winter break and meet up with my friends and catch up on their live. Furthermore, I say time is an external influence because time can fly and may not know friend that you known to be if that makes sense. 

-Sir Keithington

The Friendship Page

After looking over the Friendship Page,  I found it very helpful for friends looking for advice about making friends and resolving conflicts. In the forum page, I noticed that their were a few discussions about how to make and keep friends. Making friends can be both easy and difficult for people. So it was very interesting to read conversations on how to make and keep friends. I still don't even know how I make friends. I think i just engage in random conversations with people about life and their hobbies and interest. Another interesting feature of the friendship page was quotes and songs about friendship. I glanced over the songs and I noticed that I own couple of the songs. One of my favorite friendship songs is Anytime You Need A Friend by Mariah Carey because the song is about counting on your friends in need despite any problems in your live. Right know I think the biggest friendship song is We Are Young by fun because I think it encapsulates the college experience. You have the really listen to the lyrics of the songs to abstract the friendship meaning of the song. Nevertheless, I think the friendship page is help resources about developing and sustaining friendships.
-Sir Keithingon