Concept that need further discussion.

I think one concept that I like further discussion on is confirming and disconfirming others. This was the most confusing concept to me because it talked about using verbal and non-verbal cues of agreeing and disagreeing with other people. The book outlined using acknowledgment, recognition and endorsement to confirm or disconfirm others. I just found this lesson just a little bit confusing or I confused by the ideas of acknowledging, recognizing or endorsing someone. Another concept that I wished we talked in class about more is non-verbal communication between others. I wanted to know if there is certain non-verbal cues that project certain attitudes or a series a non-verbal cues can be conversation by the movement of facial express or the the way people play with their eyes. I think non-verbal communication is very sneak because you cannot directly get the message from the cue. Furthermore, I would have like to expand on communication between people of different backgrounds and how a person's culture factors into their communication style.
-Sir Keithington

What I learned

I felt I learned a lot this semester. One of favorite lessons this semester learning how to listen. I did not know that listening was a 10 part skills. I never really thought of listening as a skill but it makes perfect sense because in order to communicate and receive information we must listen. One thing that stood out for me in this lesson was using to listening to judge for content and not delivery and listen for ideas. I found this important because sometimes I do judge on the message is delivered and not the content. More so, it's important to listen to ideas because ideas can be cursors to conversations. Another thing that I found interesting is that language is ruled bound. The way we communication is outlined by nonverbal cues or invisible rules. For example, no saying FIRE in a movie theater or talking  over your teacher in a class. This class taught me so much on how to use language and communication to change the world. I am so grateful I took this class because I am a journalism major it is very important in my medium to communicate to an audience. So taking this class helped me expand my communication vernacular and use the tool of communication to make an impact in someone's life.
-Sir Keithington 

My Favorites and Least Favorites

My favorite thing about Communication 10 was the blogging and posting on the different topics in communication. I loved reading other students posts and looking into their insight on the topics that we were being taught each week. In addition, my favorite thing about this class was learning how the different topics in communication and the development and interactions of human relationship. I am a person who loves to communication so learning different concepts about  communication fascinates me. Additionally, another thing that I liked about the class is that it was easy going and not pressure. This is a class that I actually enjoyed and I totally love how it's structure. My least favorite part about the class that I have to say were the writing the papers because sometimes I honestly forget when they are due. Though I enjoyed writing the papers because they go the class to dig deeper in the material sometimes I felt they were a little bit long. The only thing I suggest for the class is to encourage video blog postings of the topics discussed in class. That's all.

-Sir Keithington

Marriage

Over the next 50 years marriage is going to change dramatically. In today's generation people are getting married and starting families at an earlier age. In past, getting marriage and starting family was a process but today it does not seem like that at all. I remember my mom getting married right after she graduated college and started having children after a few years getting established on the job. Additionally, I think marriage will be conducted online since we are fast paced society and the obstacle of planning a wedding becoming tiresome. More so, I think less people will be married because I see more divorce occurring throughout the years and I just couples in domestic partnerships because I sometimes feel the concept of marriage threatens an relation or can be scary of the couple involved. Futhrermore, I think in 50 years gays and lesbians will be able to get married legally because nobody is not going to care if their married because because marriage does not have the same impact that it did 50 years ago. In the past marriage was a symbol of love and family but not marriage is tiresome and irrelevant and that is pretty sad. 

-Sir Keithington

Types of Marriages

There are six types marriages in society according to Wood. The six types of marriages are vital, total, passive-congenial, devitalized and conflict-habituated. In a vital marriage, the couple is close emotionally and sexually. Therefore, the relationship is stable and both parties are satisfied. In a total marriage, it is similar to a vital marriage but there is space and separation involved in order for the couple to have independence. I think total marriages are the most common because it shows that couple are secure of themselves and trusting of their partners. In a passive-congenial marriage, the passion is low and the couple gets satisfaction participating in activities that are  not involved in the relationship. Then moving on to the devitalized marriages. In a devitalized marriage, the couple of bored with one another. I strongly believe that devitalized relationships lead divorce because all the passion and intimacy is gone. Furthermore, in a conflict-habituated relationship the marriage just falls about they are absolutely incompatible.
-Sir Keithington

Family

The first thing that I think of when I mention family is love. Family is an entity that an person can count on. Additionally, I think family is a free support system. More so, family teaches children how to behave, act and communicate in society. Family is the foundation of our beliefs and the place that keeps people grounded. I personally believe that family members provide love and support. In addition, many family members provides guidance and wisdom. For example, I always talk to grandparents and seek their advice about certain problems I go through. Moreover, family members are people's cheering teams. When you succeeding or failing you family is always there to cheer you on or pick you up. I know when I graduate this semester, I am going to hear my family cheer loud and proud to me. None of the relationships in Chapter 12 do not change my opinion on my definition of family. Family is where the heart is.

-Sir Keithington

Love and Commitment

Unfortunately, I have not experience love or commitment in a relationship since I have not sought out those type of relationships. Most of the relationships I have our platonic and are not romantically involved. In romantic relationships is key to have both commitment and love. The first thing to have is commitment because love can develop over time. Commitment is a sense of trust and reassurance in a relationship. If you are committed in a relationship that means that you believe that you can spend your whole life the person. Let's move on to love. Love is developed feeling of passion of the person. In additionally, love can grow over time by spending lots of time withe person and getting the know the person. I think there is no problem with relationship with commitment and without love because the couple of building their love together. I hope that makes sense. Other wise relationships with love and without commitment are tricky because you can love the person but no commit to the person which leads you to be with other people and that spell bad things for relationships. Love and commitment are the foundation of a successful relationship and they are synergistic. Both love and commitment come together to create strong bonds that hopefully last forever.

-Sir Keithington

Primary Styles of Love

In this post I am going to expand on primary styles of love. There are currently three primary love styles. These styles are eros, storge and ludus. Eros is the most passionate type love. For example, a person who has eros is absolutely head over the heels over their significant other and are just infatuated by him or her. According to Wood, "erotic lovers are likely to self-disclose early in a relationship, be very sentimental and fall in love fast," (p. 280). Storge is love based on friendship and compatibility. In addition, storge love builds gradually and are usually stable. I think my two good friends Trevor and Alexandria have a storge relationship because they have been friends since 3rd grade and they both acted on their feelings for each other and both of them are very happy. The last style of primary love is ludus. Ludus is described as playful love. Ludus lovers treat love as games and love getting caught in the mystery and mind games of love. However, ludus love can be deceitful and deceptive because the person sees love as a fun and not a relationship to develop. Ludus lovers are not looking for a committment just a good type. So those are three styles of primary love.
-Sir Keithington

Deception and Deceit

I agree with other critics that there is a greater potential for deceit and deception online. On the web anyone can masquerade to be anyone one they want to be to a person. In addition, it is easy for people to portray of a character or image that they are not. This deceptive and deceitful online because the person you may be starting a relationship online can turn out to be someone scary and dangerous. There have been many cases of young girls falling head over heels or guys on Facebook who turn out to be 40 year old men who just want to have sex with young girls. There are many dangers online and rapist and pedophiles can trick people online through having a friendly profile picture or engaging in friendly conversation. I do not think it's ethical for people to misrepresent yourself online because it is just wrong. Plain and simple. Be yourself and not someone else. Deception and deceit occurs easily online than in face to face communication. During the face to face communication, you can read with the person is lying or try to portray an image that isn't them. Though sometimes in face to face communication it may because it's all about body language and communication. Someone who is the master of those two skills can fool anybody.
-Sir Keithington.

My Best Friend

Investment was the key to building the friendship of my best friend and I. At first my best friend Perry and I were classmates in elementary schools. However, in elementary we really did not hang out because we had our own circle of friends. Once we got to middle school that all changed. My other friends joined another social circle in middle and then Perry and I just gravitated to another because we knew each other in elementary and sometimes eat lunch together. I think our friendship developed when he first invited me to his 12th birthday party at his house. I got to meet his family and younger brothers. From there we have became best friends. I know his family well and he knows my family well. In high school we were a team. Our nick name was PK. I strongly that investment played a huge role in friendship because I have invest my time learning is artistic and creative side as he had to invest in me being involved in school and newspaper. I even encouraged Perry to join newspaper and student council so we can hang out and have fun together. However, we still had our space. Whenever the other friend is in need we help each other out. Also we were able to disclose our deepest secretes to each other. In order for a friendship to grow it takes investment, trust and space. I think these three concepts have made our relationship last for 12 years.
-Sir Keithington

External Pressures of Friendship

There are many external pressures that friendships face and overcome. The most common external influences are competing demands, personal change and geographic distance. Competing demands basically expands on the issues that friends get wrapped into other social circles of live and that can include career and school. For example, when I am at school I mainly focused with my friends who I interact in classes with than my friends at home. Most of the friends that I grew up with our in Southern California and of course I'll go to the school here so it is sometimes hard to call my friends since I am involved in SJSU circle of friends. In addition, geographic location is also an external pressure. For example, when I was in New York interning at MTV my friends had to call me at certain times because it's a three hour difference. Most of the time my friends would call late pacific time but then I told them to called me earlier because when they call me, I am already in bed. Another external influence on friendships is personal changes. Since being away for four years and going to school I've change as person and so have my friends too. I realized I like engaging in move in depth conversations about life, news and pop culture. However, my friends out not really interested in those subjects so sometimes it is frustrating to talk them about these topics and most of the time they do not know what current events are going on. Then for me personally, I feel left out of loop when I come back for summer and winter break and meet up with my friends and catch up on their live. Furthermore, I say time is an external influence because time can fly and may not know friend that you known to be if that makes sense. 

-Sir Keithington

The Friendship Page

After looking over the Friendship Page,  I found it very helpful for friends looking for advice about making friends and resolving conflicts. In the forum page, I noticed that their were a few discussions about how to make and keep friends. Making friends can be both easy and difficult for people. So it was very interesting to read conversations on how to make and keep friends. I still don't even know how I make friends. I think i just engage in random conversations with people about life and their hobbies and interest. Another interesting feature of the friendship page was quotes and songs about friendship. I glanced over the songs and I noticed that I own couple of the songs. One of my favorite friendship songs is Anytime You Need A Friend by Mariah Carey because the song is about counting on your friends in need despite any problems in your live. Right know I think the biggest friendship song is We Are Young by fun because I think it encapsulates the college experience. You have the really listen to the lyrics of the songs to abstract the friendship meaning of the song. Nevertheless, I think the friendship page is help resources about developing and sustaining friendships.
-Sir Keithingon 

Defenses of Communication

A situation in which I felt disconfirmed and defensive is when I contributed ideas to spruce up our newscasts. I though my ideas were valid and substantial but it seem to me that people did not care. People did not acknowledge my ideas and felt hurt because I thought I was trying to help the newscast and take to a different level. I can identify two of Gibb's defensive-producing communication, which is superiority and control. Since I suggested the idea to the show producer to do "how to" stories to add to the newscast he was very hesitant and really did not like the idea and flexed his superiority. The show producer said it adds nothing to the newscast  and that it's not relevant to the show. At the moment I just felt my idea was completed ignored and did not give me chance to test out my idea and see how it works on the newscast. Another defense used was control. According to Wood (2011) "a common instance of controlling communication is a person's insistence that her or his solution or preference should prevail," (p. 209). The producer just suggested that we should keep doing the newscast how we are doing them and just add more live shows and reporters introducing their stories. He did not even consider my ideas and just asserted his idea into the show. 

-Sir Keithington 

Trust

In this post I am going to talk about the importance of trust in a relationship. I truly believe that trust is the starting foundation for any relationship because it's glue that holds everything together. According to Wood (2011), trust involves believing in another's reliability and emotionally relying on another to look for our welfare and our relationship," (p. 199). In order to for an relationship to grow and test the wills of time it must have trust. Many relationships fail because the people in relationships do not trust one another. An aspect of trust is self-disclousre. According to Wood (2011), "is the revelation of of personal information about ourselves that others are unlikely to discover in other ways," (p. 199). Self-discolusre is absolutely vital in a relationship because you coming to your friend or partner in confidence about an issue or a problem. Instilling trust in a friend is the greatest gift in a relationship because it validates the friendship or relationship. Furthermore trust and disclosure also ties to being honest with you partner because it's a mutual relationship. Personally, the relationships that last have instilled in trust in each other and our honest because with those two characteristic the foundation of relationships is built.
-Sir Keithington

Confirming and Disconfirming Climate

After reading the section of confirming and disconfirming I do find myself to disagree with other people. I think if I disagree with one my peers it feels like I am not supporting them. The book mentions three ways to confirm and disconfirm something and that is recognition, acknowledgement and endorsement.  When friend talks about something that I personally disagree with I just stare out a window or be silence. That's an example of recognition. Another form of confirmation is acknowledgement. We show acknowledgement by agreeing with the person and paraphrasing their words. An example of disconfirming acknowledgment occurs when you acknowledge their issue but do not paraphrase their idea of that issue. For instance, my friend is mad because he think he failed the SAT's and then I'll ask I wonder how are other friend did on the SAT. The last form of confirmation is endorsement. According to Wood, endorsement is "accepting another's feelings and thought. This is different from endorsing ideas because supporting a cause or issue as with confirming others is endorsing their believes and feelings on that topic. Overall, I found this sections very intriguing because it taught me non-verbal cues that I am not aware of when I am agreeing or disagreeing with a person. Know I know that I constantly sue endorsement, acknowledgment and recognition in order to agree or disagree with a person within a conversation.
-Sir Keithington

Ineffective Expressions in Emotions

The concept that I want to talk about is ineffective expression in emotions. There are three ineffective ways to express emotions, which are speaking in generalities, not owning feelings and counterfeit emotional language. According to the text, speaking in generalities is very common. For example, emotion generalities are saying, “I’m happy or I’m mad.” These phrases are very general and really do not express much. There has to be an emotion behind these emotions. An example would be saying “I’m super excited because I going to see the President of the United States.” Another if effective expression in emotions does not own your feelings. An example is using “you” language to refer to some like “you make me angry.” This is ineffective because you are not truly showing emotion. In reality, the emotion you are truly feeling is anger and dislike. More so, counterfeit emotional language is language that expresses emotions but not feelings. For example, a person saying, “please stop it.” This type of language indicates that the speaker is feeling something but language is not expressing the emotion. Nonetheless, ineffective expressions in emotion could me both misleading and confusing when communicating and building a relationship with a person.

-Sir Keithington 

Emotional Fallacies

One emotional that I am guilty of is perfectionism. I always strive to be a perfectionist because I set high standards for myself and I want to impress people with my talent. But I admit it's absolutely took a tole on me emotionally. According the text effects of perfectionism are stress, dissatisfaction of self and jealous and envy of others and I definitely experienced that during my life. For example, today I was lead anchoring Update News and newscast produced by students from the School of Journalism and Mass Communications and I totally got flustered when my live interview take did not go so well. I caught off guard by that and I miss my timing for when to read over the break. I was so disappointed in myself and I thought I was going to have an emotional relapse because I was so ready for my opportunity to shine and I blew it. But you know what I picked my self back up and go through the rest of the newscast. I just have to realize that no one is perfect. Perfection can't be achieved and I just have to realize to believe in my self and role with the punches. So whenever  I have a moment to think it over, I'll always say that I can learn from this experience and what doesn't kill you make your stronger.
-Sir Keithington

Emotional Influences

According to Wood (2011) emotion is "our experience and interpretation of internal sensations as they are shaped by physiology, perception, language and social experiences," (p. 173). After reading the text, personally I believe that organismic & interactive view of perception are linked to my view on emotion. Theses perspectives make the most sense to me because they both complement each other and they are simple to understand. The organismic view of emotion regards a stimuli response to an sensation. For example, an person who touches a hot pan may experience a painful emotion because the pan was scorching hot. Another example, can be is getting nerves or butterflies in your stomach before you perform for an event or contest. In addition, another example could be a visceral reaction when you see someone get murdered in a horror movies. Therefore, organismic perspective of emotion is triggered by out reaction to certain situations or things when variables are acted up. If that makes sense. As for the interactive perspective of emotional is influenced by society. Wood (2011) says "social rules and understandings shape what people feel and how they dor or don't express their feelings," (p. 176). For example the justices of the Supreme Court of the United States are not supposed to express any emotion during the President's State of the Union Speech. Another example, is expressing an endearing emotion when we see someone from our family graduate or when we see a pouting dog. Therefore, interactive perspective of emotion is set by the rules of society. Together both interactive and organismic views of emotion work together to express or limit various emotions in various social constructs. 

-Sir Keithington

Listening to Support Others

The concept of listening to support others is basically relationship listening. In order to establish connections and make relationships grow you must listen. According to Wood (20111), being mindful, being careful of expressing judgements, being understanding and expressing support are essential to being a good relationship listener, (p.162) So let's break down the the four points. Being mindful is critical to being an effective listener. In a relationship setting we need to look for "what lies between and behind the content in order to understand what another person is feeling," (Wood 2011, p. 162). When you are listening to support others you have to be quick not to make judgements. The person is who is expressing his or her feelings to you instills a lot of trust in you and support. This leads me to my next point about being understanding of the person perspective. If there is anything that you don't agree with the person don't tune them out being understanding and look from the situation from their point of view. It's really important to see the problem from the other person's perspective. Additionally, if you don't agree with them provide them a solution to the problem. Lastly to be an effective relationship listener you must express support. The person telling their feelings and secrets from you wants your support. To be a great friend you must supportive. Nonetheless, the basics of relationship listening are important because they provide  guide to how support our friends because with relationship listening how would we building a strong friendship and support.
-Sir Keithington

Listening is a 10 Part Skill

I found the article on listening is a 10 part skill very interesting. I never really thought of listening as a skill but it makes perfect sense why listening is skill because in order to communicate and receive information we must listen. The few items that stood out to me in the article is when your listening judge for content and not delivery and listen for ideas. I think these two concepts are especially important because I feel we use these two skills to make decision. For example, we are going through a presidential election and many republicans are battling it out to be the GOP nominee. In order to distinguish the candidates and makes a sound decision we must listen to their ideas for the future of American and how to bring back the economy from the brink of disaster. Another skill that stood out for me was hold your excitement. For example, let's just say you think your boyfriend or girlfriend is getting ready to ask you to marry him or her but the fact is that he or she wants to break up with you. This skill illustrate don't assume what message is going to be so you can make a preemptive message. Additionally, it's important to practice listening because it coaches us how to look for content, decipher ideas and communicate information. Therefore, I found this article very intriguing because it taught me about different skill sets of listening and how they can be applied.
-Sir Keithington

NonListening

I never knew that there were so many listening types. I think the most common listening that I participate in is literal listening, defensive listening and monopolizing. I live a very busy life so I am always go and want people to communicate information to me both quickly and understandably. I am guilty of participating in literal listening because I am person that likes stuff to be explained in detail so I'll grasp the concept. So every time when a teacher is assigning a assignment I always ask them to repeat it and explain it to me. Additionally, I participate in defensive listening. I am not to fond of criticism and I feel when I get criticized people are always attacking. So I just tune the person out. Moreover, I participate in monopolizing listening because I like having several conversations at time. I am such a busy person so have many conversations at one time and listening to them help me multitask. I think to overcome my literal listening I just have to take it one step at time and pay attention to the directions closely when the teacher talks about it. In addition, to overcome defensive listening I have to say to myself that it's constructive feedback and not criticism. Then to cure my monopolizing listening patterns I must have each conversation one at time so I wont get lost in the noise.

Language Use Is Rule Guided

So the topic that I am interested in talking about is language is rule guided. This concept means that communication is constituted by rules. There are places that certain types of communications should be exercised and not exercised. According to Wood (2010) communication rules "are shared understandings of what communication means and what kinds of communication is appropriate. For example, yelling fire in a a movie theater is not acceptable. There are two rules to communication, regulative and constitutive rules. Regulative rules lays out the when, how and where of communication. For example, we understand it's appropriate to wear a dress or suit and tie to wedding than wearing a bikini and swim shorts. Regulative rules sets the boundaries for communication and what boundaries they should not cross. On the other hand, constitutive rules interprets how we play with communication. In simplest terms it helps up interpret the meaning of different kinds of communication. For example we know that kissing and hugging constitutes the communication of love and punching and kicking represents hostile communication. At first I never knew that language was rule guided because I thought communication was based off social norms. Nevertheless, communication is set by rules and boundaries. Communication is an open space and we have the freedom to stay within the communication circle or cross the line.
-Sir Keithington.

Hate Speech

According to the Free Speech Museum hate speech is considered speech that is racist or anti-Semitic particularly in the United States. I think at hate speech is speech that is negative and tries to bring people down or harm them. Everyone engages in hate speech there is just different levels of hate. For example, I could say I don't like vegetables because they are green or someone can say I don't like the school because of my professor. In the United States we draw attention to hate speech when it is not socially acceptable. For example, it can be a person calling the President a terrorist. There are ways to sue for hate speech when it's considered libel. Libel is defined as defamation of person's identity or character. For hate speech to be classified libel it has to cause some effect on the person, be published to a 3rd party and be false. For example, calling a coworker a slut at my job which results in her being fired could be considered libel. Because I called her a bad name at work the boss fired her so she can sue for libel if that makes sense. I think we should not censor hate speech because everyone is entitled to their first amendments right and we choose to use it or abuse it. It will violate are first amendment rights to censor hate speech because it is protected under the 1st amendment. The only way I see to reduce hate speech is to have an educated conversation about the issues facing our society. Debate is very good for our society it just have be done respectfully and intelligently.
-Sir Keithington

A Metaphor for America

I think we are not a melting pot because everyone is different and unique in his or her own way. In American were supposed to celebrate diversity and not let it blend into the background. In addition, in the melting pot diversity is not celebrated. Therefore the metaphor that I would use to describe America's diversity is a quilt. I really like Jesse Jackson's metaphor of using a quilt to describe America's diversity. I think a quilt symbolizes American diversity because it each square on the quilt is different yet bonded by the stitching of the quilt. There are many people around the world who come to the United States to start a new life for their family. Whenever a new person comes to the United States to start a new life for themselves and their family a new square will be added to quilt. More so the quilt will represent the close-nit bond individuals, have together. Additionally, the quilt solidifies the common bond that Americans have which is the pursuit of happiness, life and liberty. 

-Sir Keithington 

Q1: Generation Gap

So for question one I talked to my grandparents about life 40 years ago. So 40 years ago my grandparents were 20 during the 1960's. Segregation was present during that time so my grandparents were trying to abide by the law. During that time men were taught to get a job and enter the army right after high school. As for women they were taught to stay at home and take care for their brothers and sisters. More so, for fun 20 year-old went to the sock-hop and danced to Motown music. In addition my grandparents participated int he civil rights movement. Then moving on the my parents who are 20 year's older than me. My parents were 20 during the 1980's. For men during that time they went to college and went to get a job. Then for women it was all about keeping up with the latest 80's trends while going to college to have fun and then meet a boy and then get married. The 80's was a fun time for my parents so 20's year old were having fun with the new music and technology. Today being 20 is a little bit stressful especially going and paying for college. Today education is the United States is incredibly expensive especially in California. More so being 20 you have to balance, school, work and social life. It is expected for both men and women who are 20 to go to college and graduate and then go out and look for a job. Though many people who are 20 have fun going to parties and hanging out with friends we are living during the an economic downturn. Therefore, going to college and finding a job is the new vision for people who are 20.
-Sir Keithington

Attachment Styles

I am going to talk about attachment styles because I feel it's important in the world of communication. Attachment styles affect the way we communicate and how we approach a relationship. Let's get started.

Secure Attachment Style: In this style people are secure within their selves and is able to place trust in a lot of people. It is the most desirable and positive attachment styles of the other 3 styles. According to the Wood (2007) "People with secure attachment styles tend to be outgoing, affectionate and able to handle the challenges and disappointments of close relationships without losing self-esteem," (p. 46).

Fearful Attachment Style: In this style people feel insecure about themselves and think they are unworthy of love. Additionally, they feel people are not as loving as they say to be. They feel that people will reject their love so that's why they are afraid to attempt a relationship. A great example can be a girl who is wall flower at a dance and wants to dance with the boy she likes but she fear she will be rejected and that the people around her will make fun of her. So that's fearful attachment style.

Dismissive Attachment Style: In this style people have a positive outlook of themselves but are distrust of people who they feel is unworthy of their love. The put people on a high pedestal and must live up to their relationship standards in order for the relationship to grow. An example can be a child of divorced parent who is unwary about their parent's new partner. They may not like their parent's new partner and may push them to fight his/her love. So dismissive style is positive yet unwary of individuals coming into their lives.

Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment Style: In this style people are considered preoccupied. They view relationships as a good or bad thing. To elaborate they think people are loving and caring but people can also be mean and hurtful. So in this type of style people get both sides for coin when it comes to establishing and developing a relationship. This is because as a child the person was treated inconsistely. Sometimes their parent loved them and sometimes they did not. So that's all the attachment styles.
-Sir Keithington

What is Race?

I think race is a concept that defines who we are in society. Race is first thing we notice when we look at a person. It is undeniable that we cant see. race. In the United States we use race it to classify a persons group or identity. I think race is a useful way to classify people generally but when ethnicity gets mixed into the race pool it become complicated. For example, some people in the US mistake Chinese or Japanese as a race as they are ethnicities within the Asian race. Race is good to use for US Census data or compiling data polls on various topics. Additionally, race is a good way to classify people within crimes or national security. However, race can be bad when it used to segregate people. During the 1960's the Civil Rights movement took place because Blacks were segregated from whites and were not allowed the same opportunities and rights white people in our country. This caused a social change in our country because then it became a battle of racial class and which race is better. I believe all races are equal and no one is superior. Luckily, Blacks stood up for their rights and fought segregation and the Civil Rights Laws was passed desegregating races. I do not think the Census should not  allow people to check multiple races to define them selves because it would mess up data gathering. Additionally, their is an box for mixed race people to check which is other or bi-racial. Therefore, the US Census should not accomodate a box for people mixed with two races or more because it would inaccurately classify the demographics of the US. 
-Sir Keithington 

The 8 Principles of Interpersonal Communication

I am going to the discuss the 8 principles of interpersonal communication. Interpersonal communication is one of my favorite communication types. Additionally, I strongly believe that interpersonal communication plays a strong role in our lives. So let's begin.

1) We Cannot NOT Communicate

It is impossible not to communicate. We communicate every day in our lives. Even silence or not speaking or striking a pose is still considered communication. So there is no way not to communicate. 

2) Interpersonal Communication is Irreversible 

When you communicate to someone you cannot turn back time and reverse what you said. Once you said something to person you cannot take it back. So just be aware of what you say because you cannot go back in a time machine and change it.

3) Interpersonal Communication involves Ethical Choices 

What we say could have both a positive and negative reaction. In regards to ethics we have to be careful not to tip the balance between right or wrong. If you say something that you know is wrong...well don't say it because are words can have consequences. 

4) People Construct Meanings in Interpersonal Communication 

When we speak or communication there are connotations and symbols within our words. When we communicate we have the intent to convey an emotion or information. More so, people really pay to attention to what people are saying and how the message is packaged and delivered. 

5) Metacommunication Effects Meanings

Metacommunication is simply defined as "about communication. In a nutshell metacommunication describes how people communicate about someone else's communication. An example, can be talking to a person who is very sad and distraught and you ask them did some go wrong in their live?

6) Interpersonal Communication Develops and Sustains Relationships 

As in my first paragraph interpersonal communication is critical in building networks of relationships in our lives. Without interpersonal communication we would not have friendships, partnerships, relationships etc. 

7) Interpersonal Communication is not a Panacea 

Though interpersonal communication is essential in establishing and sustaining relationships it is always not to cure to every problem or situation in our lives. Interpersonal communication is not going to end the war or bring the Democrats and Republicans in congress. 

8) Interpersonal Communication Effectiveness can be learned 

Many people can learn the potential and power interpersonal communication has on society, an individual or a relationship. Though people are not great interpersonal communicators at first they can learn to be a master of interpersonal communication. 

-Sir Keithington 

Close Relationships: Were Two Peas in a Pod

I am going to talk about the close relationship of my best friend Amanda and I. Since attending SJSU about three years ago, I would never thought I find a best friend because to be perfectly honest I never thought I have one. But that all changed when I met best friend Amanda three years ago the Washburn Dorm on campus. Amanda I was my next door neighbour and we instantly became friends. Our relationship was an I-you relationship because we connected right off the bat. Amanda and I both journalism majors so having that in common meant that we could take the same classes together and bond. In the beginning of relationship we talked adjusting to college life and school. Then throughout freshmen year I learned about her past experiences and I shared her past experience. More so, we at dinner at the Dinning Commons with our friends and discussed topics ranging from politics to current events. It's entertaining to have a friend who is also a journalism student because topics that you would consider taboo such politics, sex and religion does not phase us. Moreover, whenever Amanda had a problem with her boyfriend she would come to me for support and I'll always be there for her. Then when sophomore year rolled by were very close and friendship continue to grow. Some pretty tragic things happened Amanda's life that year and I continued to be here. Today our relationship is strong as ever. For three years we have been through everything together from tough to the good times. Additionally, Amanda is someone who compliments me as I compliment here. We both balance each other out. Today we still talk about current events and the other relationships in our lives but we also talk about the future. We have definitely been talking about the future a lot because both of us are graduating this year. Moreover, we still spend a lot of time talking about her relationships with other guys which I find entertaining. I relationship has progressed throughout 3 years. At first Amanda and I only talked generalities in our relationships but now we go straight into detail. Furthermore, I feel throughout years we have been able to rely on each other a lot and yet still be independent. Nonetheless, Amanda and I are going to BFF. To put in a metaphor we are like Sheldon and Penny from the Big Bang Theory.
-Sir Keithington

Question 1: Communication One way or another?

Linear communication is the old school model of communication. In the linear model of communication, there is a sender and receiver. In a nutshell, linear communication is described as one-way communication. In the linear model the sender sends a messages to receiver. However, no feedback is sent back from the receiver to the sender. Moreover, when noise is introduced into the linear model of communication it interrupts the message. For example, the linear model of communication is heavily practiced in schools. Some professors just lecture in class and allow students no feedback. Additionally, noise can be described as anything distracting. For example, playing an app during class is considered noise when a professor is lecturing. 

Now let’s talk about interactive communication. This model is more modern than the linear model of communication. This model includes feedback from the receiver; this is referred as two-way communication. An example of two-way communication is my friend and I having an conversation or a journalist interviewing a subject. So inclusion the major difference between the linear model of communication and interactive model of communication is that linear model is one-way and the interactive model is two way communication.

-Sir Keithington